Along the course of mentoring women, I have witnessed many who have made the mistake of causing their husband’s difficulty. They refused to show even little acts of love, such as honoring certain things their husbands may have preferred. As a result, most of them wound up divorced and are living with the regret that they did not do everything they could have to avoid such loss and tragedy. It is vital that women realize there is never an excuse to act with such disregard toward their husbands.

Of course everyone wants a better marriage, but most women do not want to hear that they may be the ones in need of change. Worst of all, they are too busy blaming their husbands for everything, instead of realizing their own destructive ways. Women who are quick to point the blame refuse to admit they are not all sunshine and roses.

Admittedly, it is difficult at times to face behaviors in ourselves that need change. It seems much easier to look the other way and avoid seeing our own faults. Despite whoever is at fault, it is not wise for women to act like their husbands are not worthy of respect. It is foolish to think that resisting the needs of a man will benefit anyone in the marriage. This kind of behavior will not likely defy the odds of divorce.

God will open a door and give ample opportunity for women to show sure signs of reverence to their husbands. I have seen women miss the golden opportunity that God had given them to begin repairing their marriages. If they would have only taken the opportunity, God would have been faithful to begin healing their marriages. Every opportunity God gives is a building block to strengthen a marriage. I believe more than anything that God wants marriages to thrive and overcome their troubles, to ultimately last for a lifetime.

It is unfortunate that many women are too fearful to step out of their comfort zone of trying to control their husbands. On the contrary, Godly women are called to be faithful, not fearfully controlling. They are commanded to respect their husbands, to honor them, and to bring them goodness and glory. Women who are willing to see their own mistakes avoid unnecessary pain, suffering to their families, and failure to their marriages. They understand their husband’s needs and place a high value on their commitment to serve them.

Marriage is hard enough without women contributing to their husband’s everyday challenges. This is why in Titus 2:5 God commands wives to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

In fact, God’s ways are best! Therefore, be intentional about adding quality to your husbands lives. Be the kind of women who willingly do what their husbands ask without giving them difficulty. Choose not to be the kind of women who bring constant friction or conflict to the marriage, and dishonor to their husbands.

Remember, women who express gratitude and appreciation can transform their marriages. Even small gestures of love can make a big difference.

“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.” Proverbs 12:4.

How can you show your husband a simple gesture of love today?